A few weeks ago I was in the gas station paying for gas. There was a Black man standing behind me who was clearly attracted to me, correction, attracted to my back side. He started to say what he will do to me sexually. I turned around saying "Excuse me?" and he acted like he was speaking to someone else (he folded like the punk he is). After my transaction was done I proceeded to walk out the gas station, but overheard the Middle Eastern man behind the counter ask the Black man "Why do you disrepsect your women?". The Black man responded with the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life, "Man ya'll disrespect ya'll women by having them all covered up." Needless to say, I left with a bittersweet feeling.
Fast forward to a few days ago. I'm sitting in the car waiting on my Pops to come out the store. It's summer time, so the window is down and my leg was up on the seal. Two guys walk out the store and get in the car parked next to ours. As they drive off the driver yells to me "It look like yo skin soft!" Huh? Thank the Lord they drove off before I could respond, because I'm almost sure my mouth would've gotten me into some mess.
What in the world is going on? As an African American woman I am hurt. I was disrespected by an African American man, and it took a man from the Middle East to stand up for me. Maybe I'm naive, but I would expect the African American man to understand the struggles that I face as a Black woman. I mean does he not have a mother, a grandmother, sisters, aunts, and cousins? I'm hurt because all I was to him was another big behind. He hadn't even seen my face before he started to make sexaul innuendos to me. He didn't even know my name. Then to address the guy who said my skin looks soft, trust me, by the tone of his voice it wasn't a compliment. It was completely sexual. Once again, he didn't even know my name. He didn't know my love for the community. He doesn't know I go to the Juvenile Detention in Chicago and share the gospel of Jesus Christ with the youth there and he could care less. I was a piece of meat.
When did this happen? There was a point when some men would at least ask women our name. I'm not saying that all men are disrespectful. I have met (and know) men who are the epitome of a gentleman. But when I walk and drive through Chicago I am well aware that we need to do something fast. Jill Scott said it best in her poem "The Thickness", to the two men who disrespected me I am no longer their tribesmen and no longer their friend.
What are your thoughts? Why are some men so disrespectful to women? Has the media and music influenced their actions?
PSA: "Women are more their sexual beings. There is so much more than meets the eye. Yes, we are extremely beautiful, but if you can't express that in a respectful way, then please muzzle yourselves." That is all.