The other day after 6 months of transitioning, I had the remaining of my perm cut off. I took a picture of my new crop and sent a mass text & uploaded the pic to facebook. Many of my close friends were so happy, because they know that I have been wanting to go natural for the longest (since 2003). Mostly everyone LOVES my natural hair, but there are two incidents that disturbed me. A friend guy of mine received the picture of me, and simply responded "Wow". This friend has told me on numerous occasions that he thinks I'm gorgeous, now I'm convinced that what he meant to say was my hair was gorgeous. Incident number two: My stepfather calls me asnd says "I have 3 boys, not 4". I didn't know that by me cutting my hair that I had lost all of my female parts & transformed to a boy. Needless to say those two incidents hurt my feelings. Thank God for family & friends who are supportive, natural friends, natural twitter groups, blogs, etc. So what made me do it? In September I saw Chris Rocks "Good Hair". It was disturbing to see the length that some Black women will go in order to achieve "beauty". Who told us that our natural hair isn't beautiful? Why is it that women of other races can wear their natural hair, but we can't? My decision was also spiritual. "God saw all that he had made and it was good" Gen 1:31. This is how God created the hair of people of African descent and it's good. Who are we to permanently alter it? Does God make mistakes? Did he forget to straighten our hair?I once saw a girl one the train with fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake nails, and she had on gucci boots, with a gucci purse. I thought to myself "I wonder how pretty she is without all that mess". Why is she hiding? We have been so conditioned to only accept beauty in one form that we are afraid of our own unique, powerful beauty.If I would've known that by me cutting MY hair would personally offend some people, or cause people to act different towards me, then I would've cut it shorter. My only regret is that I didn't go natural sooner.
"NOW TAKE THESE KINKS OUT OF YOUR MIND, INSTEAD OF YOUR HAIR" -Marcus Garvey-